Are Christians supposed to feel anger? Is it ok for us to get upset and frustrated? As a mental health expert and a certified Anger Management Specialist, these are questions I am often asked. First, I want to let you know that the answer to the above-mentioned questions is “yes”. Anger, like happiness, excitement, sadness, etc. is a real human emotion. The issue is not feeling angry, the more important point to ponder is how to appropriately manage your anger.
Let’s take a look at what the Bible says about anger. First, let’s look at Ephesians 4:26 says “Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger.” (ESV). In other words, God is not telling us not to never become angry. That would be impossible and unrealistic. Life at times will cause us to find ourselves in situations that cause anger. However, the Bible gives us an explanation on how to deal with anger. We are to feel the anger, but not sin because of it.
Often anger can lead to actions such as unforgiveness, revenge, gossip, rebellion, etc. All of which according to the Bible are sins. So now what? Well I’m glad you asked! There are some practical ways to deal with anger. If you’re struggling to control your emotions on a consistent basis, I can provide real-life, practical solutions. I’ll list some below.
Find the root. Spend time doing some introspection and even consider speaking with a professional counselor. Understanding the cause for your anger is a great step towards controlling and even eradicating it.
Research and recite scripture. Find scriptures to combat anger and begin a habit of reciting them any time you feel angry and ready to lash out.
Develop a habit of participating in calming activities. Finding wholesome activities to help calm your spirit is another conducive way to combat anger. This could be exercise, meditation, baking, dancing, etc. Anything that positively lifts your mood and causes you to feel calm is worth your time.
In addition to all of the tips mentioned above, I have a curriculum that will help individuals and groups overcome their anger in a positive, healthy, Christ-centered way. In next week’s blog, I’ll discuss “Anger Danger” and what happens when we don’t learn to control our anger.
I also highly encourage pastors and leaders to seek professional help for their congregants as it relates to this topic. As a Certified Anger Management Specialist (CAMS II), I have experience and knowledge in this topic. I would love the opportunity to speak with your church group about anger management and help implement life-long strategies. For booking: (888) 574-2737.
Until next time.